It's Okay to Have Needs of Your Own You fell in love with him. But over time you've come to realize he's in love with himself-and you feel trapped. His needs, his problems, and his plans always seem to take precedence over yours. Dr. David Hawkins, director of the Marriage Recovery Center, offers a guide to help you identify signs of narcissism, understand how your loved one's issues are affecting you, and prepare a biblical game plan for freeing yourself to live courageously in light of God's love. Whether the man in your life can be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), exhibits narcissistic traits and emotionally abusive behavior, or has arrogant and self-centered tendencies, the emotional pain he causes you is very real. Discover the truths, wisdom, and grace you need to spark change in your relationship, set boundaries, and experience healing.

Why do youths commit crimes? Delinquency and Crime contains essays by nine leading criminologists that seek to answer this question by describing current theories of crime and the research evidence that supports them. The contributors offer perspectives on antisocial peer socialization, social development, interactional theory, behavior genetics, and community determinants. Each essay explores the practical implication of the authors' theoretical work for crime prevention and control.

Why is crime persistent over generations, within families and within certain individuals? Is crime the manifestation of an inherited latent trait or the result of a failure of socialization and norm-setting processes? Why do youths commit crimes? Delinquency and Crime contains essays by nine leading criminologists that seek to answer these and other questions by describing current theories of crime and the research evidence that supports them. The authors' views on crime causation go beyond traditional criminological theories of strain, cultural deviance, social control, differential association and social learning to present emerging and integrated models of the origins of crime, including antisocial peer socialization, social development, interactional theory, behavior genetics, and community determinants. Each essay explores the practical implication of the authors' theoretical work for crime prevention and control.

What can a college admissions officer safely predict about the future of a 17-year-old? Are the best and the brightest students the ones who can check off the most correct boxes on a multiple-choice exam? Or are there better ways of measuring ability and promise? In this penetrating and revealing look at high-stakes standardised admissions tests, Joseph Soares demonstrates the far-reaching and mostly negative impact of the tests on American life and calls for nothing less than a national policy change. SAT Wars presents a roadmap for rethinking college admissions that moves us past the statistically weak and socially divisive SAT/ACT. The author advocates for evaluation tools with a greater focus on what youth actually accomplish in high school as a more reliable indicator of qualities that really matter in one's life and to one's ability to contribute to society. This up-to-date book features contributions by well-known experts, including a piece from Daniel Golden, who won a Pulitzer Prize for his reporting in the Wall Street Journal on admissions, and a chapter on alternative tests from Robert Sternberg, who is the world's most-cited living authority on educational research. As we continue to debate the use and misuse of standardised testing, SAT Wars will be important reading for a wide audience, including college administrators and faculty, high school guidance counsellors, education journalists, and parents.

Imagine how your father whose only impact, to date, has been his absence, suddenly changes the direction of your entire life.... ..".Something about him..." is a tragic love story. Anna and Joe grow up, unknown to each other, grow up in the same Midland town before meeting at an East Coast University. Anna is an only child of Stephanie, a product of a rape suffered by her mother at the age of fifteen. Father unknown. Stephanie never tells Anna of her conception. Joe is the youngest of three, with a mother (Lorraine) and a step father (Simon). He, too, does not know his father, a criminal who was imprisoned for armed robbery when Joe was very young. The novel deals with the life stories of other main characters too: the family history of Stephanie, Simon and Lorraine as well as that of Joe and Anna. Each family member's story sheds light on the others, and the entire family saga is told at different stages by different characters.

Este libro ensena a distinguir entre las relaciones saludables y la codependencia para que se convierta usted en la persona que Dios quiere que sea. Usted quiere hacer lo correcto: ocuparse de su familia, ser un buen empleado, decir "presente" cuando sus amigos le necesiten. Y lo hace bien. Todo el mundo sabe que puede contar con usted. Sin embargo, esta haciendo realmente lo que es mejor para ellos? Y usted? Esta creciendo? Esta contento y relajado? Le emocionan sus dones y su llamamiento o a veces piensa...Ya ni siquiera se lo que quiero? En este animado y provocativo libro, el psicologo David Hawkins muestra por que usted se siente siempre apremiado a hacer mas. Vera como puede incluso perder partes vitales de su personalidad y descuidar la obra de Dios en su vida. Averigue por que le resulta dificil decir que no. Aprenda por que se siente aceptado solo cuando esta produciendo. Y por ultimo, experimente el profundo gozo y la paz que vienen cuando servimos a los demas de nuestra abundancia y no por necesidad.

This book teaches how to distinguish between healthy relationships and codependency ?to become the person God meant you to be. Christians are called to be servants, caring for the needs of other people. But when these caregivers begin to forfeit their own God-given calling and identity in an unhealthy desire to please others, they move from servanthood to codependency. How can they get back on track? Readers will resonate with the real-life illustrations of people who no longer know what they think, want, or feel because they have unwittingly allowed voices of other people to drown out the voice of God. Suggestions for redirecting unhealthy relationships will empower readers to rediscover their own value and personal contribution. Applications to the home, to work settings, and to the church will help them become more effective servants of God. Available in English from Harvest House Publishers.

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Christians are called to be servants. But people who forfeit their God-given calling and identity in order to please others move from servanthood to codependency. How can they get back on track? Clinical psychologist David Hawkins offers a Christian perspective on healthy relationships and the pitfalls of being a people pleaser. He answers such important questions as...

• Where does Christian service end and codependency begin?
• What emotional needs lead to codependency, and how can those needs be met in healthier ways?
• How can parents help their children avoid codependent behavior?

Readers will resonate with the real-life illustrations of people who no longer know what they think, want, or feel. Suggestions for redirecting unhealthy relationships empower readers to rediscover their own value and personal contribution.

Scholars and policymakers increasingly call for evidence-based, prevention-oriented, and community-driven approaches to improve public health and reduce youth crime, substance use, and related problems. However, few functional models exist. In Communities that Care, four leading experts on prevention describe one such system to illustrate how communities effectively engage in prevention activities. Communities That Care (CTC) is a coalition-based prevention system implemented successfully in dozens of communities across the world that promotes healthy development and reduces crime rates for youth. Drawing on literature from criminology, community psychology, and prevention science this book describes the conditions and actions necessary for effective community-based prevention. The authors illustrate how effective community-based prevention can be undertaken by describing how the CTC prevention system has been developed, implemented, evaluated, and disseminated across the U.S. and internationally. Communities that Care shares invaluable lessons about the implementation and evaluation of community-level interventions and establishes a set of best practices for anyone seeking to engage in and/or evaluate effective prevention efforts.

"This sourcebook provides outstandingly important, up-to-date, and comprehensive reviews of knowledge about the prevention and treatment of serious, violent, and chronic juvenile offenders. It is an essential reference work for scholars, practitioners, and policymakers who are interested in this topic." --David P. Farrington, Professor of Psychological Criminology, University of Cambridge "At a time when the basic unit of policy about youth crime is often the sound bite, this volume shows the value of information and sustained analysis in creating a balanced program for dealing with the serious juvenile offender. The book is of value both as a specific set of youth crime proposals and as a model of the policy planning process in a difficult area." --Franklin E. Zimring, William Simon Professor of Law and Director, Earl Warren Legal Institute, University of California at Berkeley This indispensable sourcebook sculpts an alternative response to juvenile crime. The rise of violent crimes committed by youths and the lack of effective responses to treating juvenile offenders have underscored the dire need for a different approach. Some of the most respected experts in juvenile justice answer that need in this authoritative volume, presenting a balanced, humane, and effective strategy for change. The result is a comprehensive approach to preventing, treating, and controlling serious juvenile criminal behavior. Thorough analysis of strategy implementation complements discussion of core issues such as controlling delinquency, developing early and intensive intervention programs, risk assessment, and classification tools. The inclusion of special chapters on recent gang research and juveniles in the criminal court system make this volume the essential up-to-date resource for juvenile justice specialists. A Sourcebook: Serious, Violent, and Chronic Juvenile Offenders gathers together information integral to the work of policymakers, lawmakers, law enforcement personnel, and social workers as well as criminal justice researchers, sociologists, and advanced students in these fields.